How is everyone doing with pursuing those goals we spoke of for 2012? On track? Struggling? Forgot all about it? (lol) Got a plan to hit that target? Whats up? Deb
I'm working the gym and school thing this week, although the gym is tough, I've got so many assignments due this week it isn't even funny so that has to take the top priority spot this week.
I did have fun at the gym Tuesday night, got to work with one of the trainers, he beat me up pretty well, I'm totally feeling it today. :) Let's just say I remember him every time I cough or breathe. LOL. The great thing about the whole thing was that he knows that I'm studying sports medicine and he talked to me about all sorts of people he knows and about getting an internship and making sure I get my athletic training certification.
Life's been a bit of a rollercoaster here, the guy I've been dating since Sept. decided he's not sure what he wants, really I'm about to give up on men all together. I also need to figure out why I'm not sleeping, not sure if it is the cold medicine (I've got a great cold,) stress, or something else. I'm sure I'll figure it out.
I'm up to my eyeballs in assignments too, I share you're misery! Full-time student equals as much hours as a full-time job! You've got sore ribs, I've got sore ankles from PT. I'm glad you got such great information for planning your career. Getting information and connections from people who have experience in your field can be a huge benefit. As for the guy thing, just don't sell yourself short and don't "settle." Value yourself. The rest will see to itself in time.(Not that I'm any expert on anything guy related!) I'm sorry if your hearts a bit broken, that really sucks, but you are a strong person and I'm sure you'll figure it out. Have you tried some systemic relaxation or meditation before bed? It can help you turn off your brain from the stress of the day and relax your body. You have a lot going on. Hang in there!
Me, I'm doing better! Running to keep up but its keeping me distracted from other things I can't change anyway. Worrying is really a waste of time and energy but It can be hard not to do, at least for me. I'm trying to figure out where i go from here career-wise. I'm kind of having to create my own niche, and Its really going out on a limb. Preparation, effort, and faith in yourself help and I am working on all three. Sometimes you take a leap of faith and hope you land on your feet! Best wishes to you! keep in touch. NDCQ! Deb
I was just reading both of your stories en smiled a little bit. We all had very busy weeks with (to many) assignments. For me this week has been absolutely exhausting. My colleague had found another job and left last wednesday (when I started to work there 4 years ago we worked with 4 nurses after two years 2 of our colleagues left, no replacement and it was just the two of us (while there was still work for 4 people...). When my latest colleague decided to leave my boss finally said it was ok to hire someone else. She is starting next week and has to learn everything... So the one who always feels responsible for everything (me) works a little bit harder. At this moment I am so tired ( already worked more than two years with two people the ammount of work normally 4 people would do). Today is my day of. I switched the telephone of (so no boss can call me). In my head I want to do about thousend things or so but my body say's no. Don´t really now if I have to listen to my body right now of just have to say to myself, come one you still can go on. Just say that this is not going to be top 5 of best weeks ever.
Christine and Deb, hope that you will recover from your psychical problems. Both of your stories are inspiring and help me going on! Thanks.
Keep up with everything and hope te hear from you soon! NDCQ
Rest up Franscoise. If your body says "that tired", listen to it. I am glad you're getting a replacement and its not 1 person doing 4 peoples work! That's on the impossible side of things! Its amazing to me how much Nursing here in the US is like Nursing there! Or maybe it is just bosses who are the same! Some people take to much advantage of most nurses good hearted nature. Don't let him make his problem your problem by working you into the ground. Keeping your job and performing well is important but not worth killing yourself over when your health suffers. Enjoy your day off and work on saying "no" to people who take advantage of you! :) (Ask him to pay you for doing all these other peoples jobs...:) I hope the boss will be training and you don't have to do that and 3 peoples work also! I will really feel bad for you then! Be strong, take a stand, and take care of yourself. Deb
Hi Ladies! Hang in there. We have had a rollercoaster couple of weeks around here as well. The ups and downs of our business are so extreme and I have found myself writing Not Dead Can't Quit out quite a few times in text messages and emails. It always helps when I'm wearing my NDCQ Gear and I walk by a mirror and it makes me snap out of my head! Best wishes to you all. You are all such kind and giving people and it is inspiring to see you all here supporting each other. Thank you for supporting me as well. Much Love to you all.
just remember when you are down of your business that there is at least 1 woman from the Netherlands so thankfull that you and your husband have set this all up! Can't express my gratitude.
I think that you are absolutely right that most nurses have a good hearted nature. We always want to take care of our patients and others en forget to take care of ourselfs. I am very glad that I switched the telephone of today. I saw this evening that around 10 am this morning someone tried to call me with an anonymous telephone number (our hospital always has an anonymous number). Next step for me will be to learn to say no ( and believe me that's going to be a hard target to accomplish). And (of course) didn't take enough rest. Did my running and others exercise this afternoon so my shin bone really hurts right now. But the only one responsible for that is me. About my boss he is a she and she was a nurse a long time ago. When you don't know her you even could think that she is a nice and warm person. She knows my weakness and takes advantage of that ( I know that I let her take adventage of me but haven't found to right way to deal with that).
And you Deb how are you doing? And how is everything going with your daugther and son? And how is your grandbaby doing. Is she already in a stabiel environment?
I was raised with that "be responsible for everybody" and never consider yourself thing. It took me a while to work up the courage to start saying "no" to people. But this is the thing my friend, You are as responsible for looking out for yourself as you are for anyone else. If you are exhausted and drained for over extending yourself then you can't be there for the people you want to be there for anyway. It is not selfish to consider yourself as important as others. It is healthy. It is unhealthy for you and for the other person to continue letting them take advantage. They don't learn to deal with things responsibly either by doing that. That courage that got you through that race can get you through this too. I encourage you to value yourself as much as your patients and your boss. Get in front of a mirror and practice saying "No" until you can do it without feeling guilty. I also found I felt very resentful all the time when I could not say "no" to people because I knew inside I was being taken advantage of and disrespected. getting rid of that feeling was worth getting brave for alone! So I will quit preaching, I just feel for you because I have been there and you deserve better my friend.
Mandy, hang on through the rollercoaster! We appreciate you so much!
My son is doing very well. My daughter is staying with a friend and still has her baby. She is doing that because she had community service ordered by the court from a previous court sentance and had no transportation. I suspect she is going back to the boyfriend soon, because she usually does when money runs out. I am still afraid for the baby but she is not communicating much with us now because she knows we are watching. I am doing my best to not worry. Unless there is more actions that endanger the child which can be verified there is nothing I can do. All to often here children are left far to long before action is taken. My best to you. Deb
Thank you Mandy for giving me a chance to post something here.
I have certainly taken advantage of the "Not Dead Can't Quit" incantation when I am pushing myself physically. It is one of several I use that get me through my work out or hike.
The last few years have been very challenging for me and I decided I needed to toughen up my mind. I joined Mark Devine's "Unbeatable Mind" program and someone in that Facebook group mentioned this web site. So being a believer in taking massive action I signed up here to see if there may be one more thing I can add to my quiver of mental toughness arrows (so to speak).
My biggest challenge is finding a good job. At 66 years old the age problem comes up a lot, but I am not giving up and I have concentrated on making myself better at my craft (sales) as well as improving my physical health any way I can.
I am sure I can learn a lot from people here on this site.
welcome on this site. It's always great to meet new people to learn from. I am very curious about the "unbeatable mind" program you followed. I also found the sealfit site and this program but not really sure if it's something for a 36 year old women. So please tell me about your experience at that program.
Please forgive me for any grammatical mistakes. English is not my native language.
Finished Physical therapy this week. I will be working the ankles at home for a while but it has really done wonders. My balance has improved greatly, my limp has diminshed a bunch and I am not in pain all the time after exercising. Can actually walk heel to toe without falling over (most of the time, lol) Time to start serious training. Trying to keep my head in the right games at the moment. Fairing decently. Hope you all are doing well also. Thanks Mandy Mack, Deb
That's great that you are done with PT. I'm sorry I'm still catching up after working the weekend. Keep us posted on your 5K progress. I ran/walked my first last June. I need to get back into the gym, I just haven't been able to find the time with everything else.
Hopefully things will be quiet until the next gun show in April.
May 14th, Medford OR, 5K walk/run. thats the goal. ankles are doing well. Body is utterly exhausted and Im greatful for the upcoming 3 day weekend. Its been a stressful few weeks but I have sucessfully avoided mainlining Haagen-Daaz so I think I am doing fine! The great news is that my parenting class has been discovered by parents dealing with Childrens services and who are required to take a class. The local attorneys working with them have all got my number and handing it out. The sponsored dhs class is always so full they cant get in for months while their kids sit in the system. I think things are about to go to a whole new level, I am excited. I can't wait til school is over this summer and I get my degree. Then I can work on my parenting program full time. I have tremendous positive feedback from the students from round one. I am adjusting ,adding,and constantly getting great ideas for stuff to add. I am excited to build this. last week I was worried it might die but not now. Its great to be useful and contribute something so needed by folks, and families. I feel like I'm onto something I can run with. Its exciting! Finding my place in the world again. :)
I owe mack a giant hug! The carver matrix helped me find my path, The first thing I tell my class is the NDCQ phrase (read off as a quote from Mack, and a little background on where it came from.), the importance of attitude and "how bad do you want it". Its amazing watching it start to sink in on some people. Their body language changes. LOVE IT!
May 14th, Medford OR, 5K walk/run. thats the goal. ankles are doing well. Body is utterly exhausted and Im greatful for the upcoming 3 day weekend. Its been a stressful few weeks but I have sucessfully avoided mainlining Haagen-Daaz so I think I am doing fine! The great news is that my parenting class has been discovered by parents dealing with Childrens services and who are required to take a class. The local attorneys working with them have all got my number and handing it out. The sponsored dhs class is always so full they cant get in for months while their kids sit in the system. I think things are about to go to a whole new level, I am excited. I can't wait til school is over this summer and I get my degree. Then I can work on my parenting program full time. I have tremendous positive feedback from the students from round one. I am adjusting ,adding,and constantly getting great ideas for stuff to add. I am excited to build this. last week I was worried it might die but not now. Its great to be useful and contribute something so needed by folks, and families. I feel like I'm onto something I can run with. Its exciting! Finding my place in the world again. :)
I owe mack a giant hug! The carver matrix helped me find my path, The first thing I tell my class is the NDCQ phrase (read off as a quote from Mack, and a little background on where it came from.), the importance of attitude and "how bad do you want it". Its amazing watching it start to sink in on some people. Their body language changes. LOVE IT!
Hey Deb! I'm working the
Hey Deb!
I'm working the gym and school thing this week, although the gym is tough, I've got so many assignments due this week it isn't even funny so that has to take the top priority spot this week.
I did have fun at the gym Tuesday night, got to work with one of the trainers, he beat me up pretty well, I'm totally feeling it today. :) Let's just say I remember him every time I cough or breathe. LOL. The great thing about the whole thing was that he knows that I'm studying sports medicine and he talked to me about all sorts of people he knows and about getting an internship and making sure I get my athletic training certification.
Life's been a bit of a rollercoaster here, the guy I've been dating since Sept. decided he's not sure what he wants, really I'm about to give up on men all together. I also need to figure out why I'm not sleeping, not sure if it is the cold medicine (I've got a great cold,) stress, or something else. I'm sure I'll figure it out.
How are you doing?
Christine
Im working school and physical therapy!
I'm up to my eyeballs in assignments too, I share you're misery! Full-time student equals as much hours as a full-time job! You've got sore ribs, I've got sore ankles from PT. I'm glad you got such great information for planning your career. Getting information and connections from people who have experience in your field can be a huge benefit. As for the guy thing, just don't sell yourself short and don't "settle." Value yourself. The rest will see to itself in time.(Not that I'm any expert on anything guy related!) I'm sorry if your hearts a bit broken, that really sucks, but you are a strong person and I'm sure you'll figure it out. Have you tried some systemic relaxation or meditation before bed? It can help you turn off your brain from the stress of the day and relax your body. You have a lot going on. Hang in there!
Me, I'm doing better! Running to keep up but its keeping me distracted from other things I can't change anyway. Worrying is really a waste of time and energy but It can be hard not to do, at least for me. I'm trying to figure out where i go from here career-wise. I'm kind of having to create my own niche, and Its really going out on a limb. Preparation, effort, and faith in yourself help and I am working on all three. Sometimes you take a leap of faith and hope you land on your feet! Best wishes to you! keep in touch. NDCQ! Deb
Deborah Roberts
Hai Girls!
I was just reading both of your stories en smiled a little bit. We all had very busy weeks with (to many) assignments. For me this week has been absolutely exhausting. My colleague had found another job and left last wednesday (when I started to work there 4 years ago we worked with 4 nurses after two years 2 of our colleagues left, no replacement and it was just the two of us (while there was still work for 4 people...). When my latest colleague decided to leave my boss finally said it was ok to hire someone else. She is starting next week and has to learn everything... So the one who always feels responsible for everything (me) works a little bit harder. At this moment I am so tired ( already worked more than two years with two people the ammount of work normally 4 people would do). Today is my day of. I switched the telephone of (so no boss can call me). In my head I want to do about thousend things or so but my body say's no. Don´t really now if I have to listen to my body right now of just have to say to myself, come one you still can go on. Just say that this is not going to be top 5 of best weeks ever.
Christine and Deb, hope that you will recover from your psychical problems. Both of your stories are inspiring and help me going on! Thanks.
Keep up with everything and hope te hear from you soon! NDCQ
Francoise
Good Grief! Rest!
Rest up Franscoise. If your body says "that tired", listen to it. I am glad you're getting a replacement and its not 1 person doing 4 peoples work! That's on the impossible side of things! Its amazing to me how much Nursing here in the US is like Nursing there! Or maybe it is just bosses who are the same! Some people take to much advantage of most nurses good hearted nature. Don't let him make his problem your problem by working you into the ground. Keeping your job and performing well is important but not worth killing yourself over when your health suffers. Enjoy your day off and work on saying "no" to people who take advantage of you! :) (Ask him to pay you for doing all these other peoples jobs...:) I hope the boss will be training and you don't have to do that and 3 peoples work also! I will really feel bad for you then! Be strong, take a stand, and take care of yourself. Deb
Deborah Roberts
Hi Ladies! Hang in there. We
Hi Ladies! Hang in there. We have had a rollercoaster couple of weeks around here as well. The ups and downs of our business are so extreme and I have found myself writing Not Dead Can't Quit out quite a few times in text messages and emails. It always helps when I'm wearing my NDCQ Gear and I walk by a mirror and it makes me snap out of my head! Best wishes to you all. You are all such kind and giving people and it is inspiring to see you all here supporting each other. Thank you for supporting me as well. Much Love to you all.
NDCQ,
Mandy
just remember
Hai Mandy,
just remember when you are down of your business that there is at least 1 woman from the Netherlands so thankfull that you and your husband have set this all up! Can't express my gratitude.
Love Francoise
Hai Deb, I think that you
Hai Deb,
I think that you are absolutely right that most nurses have a good hearted nature. We always want to take care of our patients and others en forget to take care of ourselfs. I am very glad that I switched the telephone of today. I saw this evening that around 10 am this morning someone tried to call me with an anonymous telephone number (our hospital always has an anonymous number). Next step for me will be to learn to say no ( and believe me that's going to be a hard target to accomplish). And (of course) didn't take enough rest. Did my running and others exercise this afternoon so my shin bone really hurts right now. But the only one responsible for that is me. About my boss he is a she and she was a nurse a long time ago. When you don't know her you even could think that she is a nice and warm person. She knows my weakness and takes advantage of that ( I know that I let her take adventage of me but haven't found to right way to deal with that).
And you Deb how are you doing? And how is everything going with your daugther and son? And how is your grandbaby doing. Is she already in a stabiel environment?
Thanks for all yous support
Love Francoise
Saying "No"
I was raised with that "be responsible for everybody" and never consider yourself thing. It took me a while to work up the courage to start saying "no" to people. But this is the thing my friend, You are as responsible for looking out for yourself as you are for anyone else. If you are exhausted and drained for over extending yourself then you can't be there for the people you want to be there for anyway. It is not selfish to consider yourself as important as others. It is healthy. It is unhealthy for you and for the other person to continue letting them take advantage. They don't learn to deal with things responsibly either by doing that. That courage that got you through that race can get you through this too. I encourage you to value yourself as much as your patients and your boss. Get in front of a mirror and practice saying "No" until you can do it without feeling guilty. I also found I felt very resentful all the time when I could not say "no" to people because I knew inside I was being taken advantage of and disrespected. getting rid of that feeling was worth getting brave for alone! So I will quit preaching, I just feel for you because I have been there and you deserve better my friend.
Mandy, hang on through the rollercoaster! We appreciate you so much!
My son is doing very well. My daughter is staying with a friend and still has her baby. She is doing that because she had community service ordered by the court from a previous court sentance and had no transportation. I suspect she is going back to the boyfriend soon, because she usually does when money runs out. I am still afraid for the baby but she is not communicating much with us now because she knows we are watching. I am doing my best to not worry. Unless there is more actions that endanger the child which can be verified there is nothing I can do. All to often here children are left far to long before action is taken. My best to you. Deb
Deborah Roberts
How are things going with you?
Just checking in on you all! Give us an update when you have a free few seconds!
How it is going with me?
Thank you Mandy for giving me a chance to post something here.
I have certainly taken advantage of the "Not Dead Can't Quit" incantation when I am pushing myself physically. It is one of several I use that get me through my work out or hike.
The last few years have been very challenging for me and I decided I needed to toughen up my mind. I joined Mark Devine's "Unbeatable Mind" program and someone in that Facebook group mentioned this web site. So being a believer in taking massive action I signed up here to see if there may be one more thing I can add to my quiver of mental toughness arrows (so to speak).
My biggest challenge is finding a good job. At 66 years old the age problem comes up a lot, but I am not giving up and I have concentrated on making myself better at my craft (sales) as well as improving my physical health any way I can.
I am sure I can learn a lot from people here on this site.
Bill
Welcome
Glad to have you with us Bill. Look forward to hearing more about the things you are learning. I hope we can be an encouragement to you. Deb
Deborah Roberts
Welcome
Hello Bill,
welcome on this site. It's always great to meet new people to learn from. I am very curious about the "unbeatable mind" program you followed. I also found the sealfit site and this program but not really sure if it's something for a 36 year old women. So please tell me about your experience at that program.
Please forgive me for any grammatical mistakes. English is not my native language.
Francoise
NDCQ!
Hello,
Just had a couple of very bad day's. Hope te recover the next few. Wasn't even be able to think NDCQ anymore....
Hope that everyone else is doing better!
Francoise
Get Better Franscoise
Thinking of you and hoping it isn't too serious. We appreciate you, our friend. Hold on and keep fighting, we are pulling for you. Deb
Deborah Roberts
PT is over, on to the 5K
Finished Physical therapy this week. I will be working the ankles at home for a while but it has really done wonders. My balance has improved greatly, my limp has diminshed a bunch and I am not in pain all the time after exercising. Can actually walk heel to toe without falling over (most of the time, lol) Time to start serious training. Trying to keep my head in the right games at the moment. Fairing decently. Hope you all are doing well also. Thanks Mandy Mack, Deb
Deborah Roberts
Still catching up
Deb,
That's great that you are done with PT. I'm sorry I'm still catching up after working the weekend. Keep us posted on your 5K progress. I ran/walked my first last June. I need to get back into the gym, I just haven't been able to find the time with everything else.
Hopefully things will be quiet until the next gun show in April.
I'll see you here and on facebook!
Chris
The 5 K plan
May 14th, Medford OR, 5K walk/run. thats the goal. ankles are doing well. Body is utterly exhausted and Im greatful for the upcoming 3 day weekend. Its been a stressful few weeks but I have sucessfully avoided mainlining Haagen-Daaz so I think I am doing fine! The great news is that my parenting class has been discovered by parents dealing with Childrens services and who are required to take a class. The local attorneys working with them have all got my number and handing it out. The sponsored dhs class is always so full they cant get in for months while their kids sit in the system. I think things are about to go to a whole new level, I am excited. I can't wait til school is over this summer and I get my degree. Then I can work on my parenting program full time. I have tremendous positive feedback from the students from round one. I am adjusting ,adding,and constantly getting great ideas for stuff to add. I am excited to build this. last week I was worried it might die but not now. Its great to be useful and contribute something so needed by folks, and families. I feel like I'm onto something I can run with.
Its exciting! Finding my place in the world again. :)
I owe mack a giant hug! The carver matrix helped me find my path, The first thing I tell my class is the NDCQ phrase (read off as a quote from Mack, and a little background on where it came from.), the importance of attitude and "how bad do you want it". Its amazing watching it start to sink in on some people. Their body language changes. LOVE IT!
Deborah Roberts
The 5 K plan
May 14th, Medford OR, 5K walk/run. thats the goal. ankles are doing well. Body is utterly exhausted and Im greatful for the upcoming 3 day weekend. Its been a stressful few weeks but I have sucessfully avoided mainlining Haagen-Daaz so I think I am doing fine! The great news is that my parenting class has been discovered by parents dealing with Childrens services and who are required to take a class. The local attorneys working with them have all got my number and handing it out. The sponsored dhs class is always so full they cant get in for months while their kids sit in the system. I think things are about to go to a whole new level, I am excited. I can't wait til school is over this summer and I get my degree. Then I can work on my parenting program full time. I have tremendous positive feedback from the students from round one. I am adjusting ,adding,and constantly getting great ideas for stuff to add. I am excited to build this. last week I was worried it might die but not now. Its great to be useful and contribute something so needed by folks, and families. I feel like I'm onto something I can run with.
Its exciting! Finding my place in the world again. :)
I owe mack a giant hug! The carver matrix helped me find my path, The first thing I tell my class is the NDCQ phrase (read off as a quote from Mack, and a little background on where it came from.), the importance of attitude and "how bad do you want it". Its amazing watching it start to sink in on some people. Their body language changes. LOVE IT!
Deborah Roberts
Yeah
Go for it! You will have all my support!